The Importance of Female Friendships — Especially in Motherhood

There’s something sacred about the way women love each other.
Not in the fluffy, pink wine meme kind of way (though we’ll take a glass) — but in the real, soul-deep, come-over-in-your-sweatpants kind of way.

Especially in motherhood.

Because there are moments in this season of life that feel too tender, too complicated, too messy to explain — unless you’re talking to someone who just gets it.

Female friendships are not just a luxury. They’re emotional infrastructure.

They hold us up in the in-between.
In the postpartum fog.
In the midnight spirals.
In the “I don’t know who I am anymore” moments.
In the unspoken eye contact across the playground.
In the “me too” replies to a tear-filled rant.

Female friendships are a mirror — not to who we were,
but to who we’re still allowed to be.

Why they matter so much in parenting seasons

Motherhood can be isolating.
Not because you’re physically alone (hello, clingy toddler),
but because so much of what you carry is invisible.

• The mental load.

• The emotional labour.

• The guilt.

• The grief for who you were.

• The slow unraveling and re-stitching of your identity.

And sometimes, the only people who can really see you in all that —
are the women who have been there, are there, or are walking alongside you.

Female friendships let you be all of it.

You don’t have to be the gentle parent.
The partner.
The one who “has it together.”

You can be the one who:

• Sends a panicked voice note.

• Confesses you yelled.

• Shares your wins without downplaying them.

• Lets your guard down.

• Asks, “Is this normal?”

• And just… is.

And yes — adult friendships take effort.

We’re all busy.
We cancel.
We reschedule.
We forget to reply (for 3-5 business months).

But when we reconnect — even after weeks or years — something inside settles.
Because this is not performative.
It’s not for clout.
It’s not curated.

It’s real, lived-in, beautifully human love.

If you’ve found your people — hold them close.

Text them back.
Tag them in memes.
Tell them they’re doing great.
Book the walk, the brunch, the FaceTime.

And if you haven’t found them yet — don’t give up.
Your people are out there.
And they are so worth waiting for.
Because the right friendships? They don’t drain you.
They refill you.

At Simple Smyles, we believe support doesn’t start and stop with a partner, a therapist, or a workshop.
Sometimes, it starts with the friend who says,

“You are not crazy. Let’s get coffee.”

So here’s to the women who hold each other up.
Who show up in the group chat, in the delivery room, in the hardest seasons — and stay.

You are everything.
And you are not alone. 💛